In Traditional Oriental Medicine, autumn is the season of decline, release and ultimately death. It is the phase of the yearly cycle where we are encouraged, or forced to, let go of the things that are naturally coming to an end.
For my Alchemist Recovery clients, the most important lesson here is:
if we do not enter into this process of release willingly and with full awareness, then life has forceful and uncompromising ways waiting to provide the same results…but with a lot more pain.
Because it’s common to get really, really attached to our stuff, I find that release is where some of our hardest work occurs.
Take a minute, breath, and ask yourself..
“What am I hanging onto that really needs to go?”
- Certain relationships
- Outdated beliefs
- Misguided passions
- Unhealthy indulgences
- Particular behaviors
Your gut reactions tell you the answers.
During my 40’s, I really put my nose to the grindstone and made some headway into achieving things I wanted. As a result, I got “stuff”.
During the past year and our two big moves of thousands of miles each, I found myself letting go of a lot of that “stuff”. This can take many forms but the object, image or idea that is tangibly released usually points to something much bigger that needs to be examined.
For example with me:
When I let go of…. ….I needed to look at..
My books how knowledgable I think I am
My clothes a display of how important I am
My black, convertible, sports BMW look how cool I am
My “super elite” credit status proof of how successful I am
Unfortunately for Dana, my wife and partner, I wasn’t always entering into the process of my release “willingly and with awareness”. Sometimes, I was much more like a 7 year old being told that I can’t have more birthday cake and the party’s over. Sorry about that, Love, really…
Looking back, I wish I had reached out for more of the support that was available to me…but…I was pretty attached to my “stuff” and gosh darn it, I had justifiable reasons to stay stuck in my old beliefs, patterns and stories.
You don’t have to do it that way. I’m writing to let you know that Alchemist Recovery has various ways to help.
Specifically, we can address:
- All aspects of an addiction
- Ending of a job or career
- Death of a loved one
- Losing a part of your Identity
- Severing of a relationship or a phase of a relationship
- Other forms of Grief
When we empty out, we make room for something bigger, better and much of the time, even beyond what we can imagine, to be able to come in.
For me today, this comes in the awe inspiring gift of watching a family of Bears. A big mama and her two growing cubbies have found the nut and plum trees across the street. Click here for a FaceBook post of a couple of vids.
Wow. Simple, peaceful and fulfilling.
What can you make room for?
To find out more about how Alchemist Recovery can help, click here.
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