The 3 Energies of Defense: Which one(s) do you use?

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The 3 Energies of Defense

Which one(s) do you use?

Simply put, when we feel the need to defend ourselves from another person’s probing questioning, we’ve got three fundamental ways of doing this:

  1. Forcing 

  2. Needing

  3. Avoiding


The 3 Directions of defense:

When we look at these forces energetically, they all contain a specific kind of charge, which defends in a very specific way, and which guides the energy and attention in a very specific direction. This looks as such:

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The 3 Directions of defense are:

  1. Forcing      -  Pushing out and back onto another

  2. Needing -  Pulling in and towards oneself

  3. Avoiding  - Deflecting off and away 




the Three Charges of Defense:

Next, we can think of these charges as they relate to electromagnetic energy. If they were a magnet, it would look like this:

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the Three Charges of Defense Are:

  1. Forcing      + Positive charge

  2. Needing  - Negative charge

  3. Avoiding   o Neutral charge








Three Examples of Defense:

We are like magnets and our defenses do give off charges. And whether it’s conscious or not, we feel the results of these charges. 

Let’s give some real life situations to provide some context.  We’ll use the three examples of The Roles We Play in Active Addiction from last Lesson. They fit in perfectly here and look as such:

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Three Examples of Defense Are:

  1. Forcing     + Angry One

  2. Needing  - The Victim 

  3. Avoiding  o I’m Fine  

*The Role of I’m Fine is a label for those who use this specific phrase, or any like it, when answering questions that should have expression of emotion


The Role of the Angry One uses Forcing energy. It pushes attention and energy away from the Role and back onto the other person. To the recipient, this force feels like an attack or infliction.

When have you used this Forcing energy to protect your addiction?

With who?

How did they respond?


The Role of The Victim uses Needing energy. It pulls attention and energy in towards the Role. To the recipient, this force feels like one is being sucked in.

When have you used this Needing energy to protect your addiction?

With who?

How did they respond?


The Role of the I’m Fine uses Avoiding energy. It deflects attention and energy away from the Role. To the recipient, this Force feels empty and like you’re just not going to get a satisfying or real answer.

When have you used this Avoiding energy to protect your addiction?

With who?

How did they respond?

The wild card is that we will use different forces on different people at different times. And sometimes, we may even bounce between all three of these during one conversation!

Summary


The focus of this work is to gain awareness around the ways we defended our active addiction. These 3 Energies of Defense are the exact forces we used to make sure no one interrupted our precious Cycle.

Once we admit to and identify how we used these energies, we can make more conscious choices in our lives moving forward.  Because as we all know, just because we’ve stopped using, it doesn’t mean these other habits and patterns automatically fall away. 

We must remain self-vigilant, self-honest, and self-compassionate to heal these deep-seated and long-standing patterns, and using an energetic approach like the one presented here can be a way to achieve exactly this.


Blessings,

Randy

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